Monday 9th June 2025

Just to let you know that I am still alive after last week which was so busy.

We celebrated Volunteers’ Week and raised awareness of Dementia in an even bigger way than usual. Monday saw us at the City Chambers just off the Royal Mile. (If you don’t know Edinburgh you would have seen the Royal Mile if you watched the Queens Funeral on the TV.) Edinburgh Council were holding an awards night, and we were singing in the nominees. We were singing in the courtyard which meant people on the Royal Mile could hear and came in and sang along. It was great to have the Provost coming to join us singing the song Consider Yourself. It was a fun evening with plenty of contacts which helped so much.

Thursday saw us singing in the Gyle shopping centre which was fun. There is no doubt that the song Sweet Caroline gets the best reaction with people joining in the actions and all the extra notes that go to make up the song. We had a volunteer from Alzheimer Scotland in Morrison’s too which meant we could enhance the opportunities for both of us and raise awareness of dementia. On Thursday afternoon we were in Saughton Park where around fifty people came and sang. We also had a tea party as it was Dementia Awareness week and thanks to our wonderful choir ladies we had the most amazing sandwiches, cake, shortbread and other nibbles. It was a great time and everyone thoroughly enjoyed it. We were joined by a group of people from Garvald and our favourite percussionist joined the house band for the afternoon.

As if that wasn’t all enough, we were at the Festival Theatre doing Together in Song on Friday taking the theme of musicals. We sang songs from all the well-known musicals like Mary Poppins, Oliver, The Lion King and West Side Story. The energy in the room was brilliant. I am not sure if we surpassed the entertainment that Paul and Gus were going to see in the evening as they were going to see Kylie in Glasgow.

We already had all the other music memories sessions at St. Bride’s, St. Cuthbert’s, Eagle Lodge, Ashbrook and of course All Singing and Dancing. It is not always the big things that leave the biggest impression. Zoom Choir saw another new person and created opportunities for people to share their story in song. It is great to see one of those people with additional needs who joins us getting so much from the session.

This week holds further excitement, but I can tell you about that next week.

Monday 2nd June 2025

We have had another week of growth and reflection ahead of Dementia Awareness Week in Scotland that brings with it several different events.

This last week has seen me having discussions about a sixth open access group in another part of town. Our open access groups mean that anyone can attend without the need for referrals or waiting lists. It is a case of come along and enjoy singing, sharing and making new friends. These groups act as an introduction to Forget Me Notes and an introduction to an environment that offers support to those who feel for various reasons it is what they need.

We also visited the North Edinburgh Arts in Muirhouse - what a brilliant new building they have there. It was good to speak to staff and see how we can be of benefit to one another. North Edinburgh Arts are about to offer a meeting place for those in the early stages of dementia, and we are exploring the possibility of a group that will be an intergenerational music and movement group. It will be like All Singing and Dancing but for all and allow us to do all kinds of music and dance, from Ceilidh, to Rock and Roll, to chair dancing.

The one thing you realise when supporting people with a lived experience of dementia is that dementia never has a break so the need to find different and inclusive opportunities for support is on-going.

The week ahead is Dementia Awareness Week in Scotland and Volunteers’ Week which means a busy schedule. We are singing at the City Chambers tonight to welcome those people who have been nominated for an Inspiring Volunteers award. These are always exciting evenings and are a way of acknowledging the work of so many wonderful people. We are singing in the courtyard as people arrive. In the usual Forget Me Notes style we will be encouraging people to join in and sing along.

On Thursday we will be singing in the Gyle shopping centre for Dementia Awareness week, so if you are from Edinburgh and have some time between 10:30am and 12pm then why not drop in and see us. You could even sing a song or two with us. It will be an opportunity to highlight the issues faced by those with a lived experience of dementia and their carers. In the afternoon we are in Saughton Park for an extra special session that will include goodies. What goodies remain to be seen as they are being brought by some of the choir members themselves. I am sure we will be in for a great afternoon as long as the weather holds.

On Friday we are at the Festival Theatre for another Together in Song. These sessions are always great and this time it is musicals month. We are having a performance by the staff choir which is great.

Do you feel tired reading this? Well so do I now that I am writing it. What I do now is that after a busy week we will have had so many opportunities to share music and memory with those who need time and space to express themselves in song.

Monday 26th May 2025

I think it might be true to say that we have had an ordinary week of delivering services. Monday started with Morningside, St. Cuthbert’s and Zoom Choir. Tuesday was All Singing and Dancing, Open Door. Thursday Open Door, Indoor Choir and Stenhouse Wynd. Friday meant holding a phone-call with Tilly to speak about the possibility of our sixth choir and then Kenny and I did Eildon House.

While it may have been an ordinary week it was spent with extra ordinary people. I don’t get to go to St. Cuthbert’s that often but this week I had the chance to go and listen to their stories. Open Door both on Tuesday and on Thursday was just as it usually is, so good, with the warmth and the evidence of a staff team who really care even when things can be difficult is just wonderful.

Our Indoor Choir now has a new name - we are going to call our choirs community choirs and because it is in Gorgie it will be known as Gorgie Community Choir. Our other choirs will also carry their area name which is great. To be honest Indoor Choir was a bit of a naff name, so it is good to have another name. It is amazing to think that as we move into our eighth year that we are discussing having six choirs.

The thing that moved me the most this week was at the end of All Singing and Dancing one of the people who uses the service stepped forward and asked Kenny for a particular song. She proceeded to sign the song as Kenny sang, she was brilliant. What is it about seeing people who communicate in this way that makes it so moving? Could it be that it is a way of seeing people being included in a world where so much exclusion of diverse people takes place? One thing that Paul says about Zoom Choir is that each square is the same size. There is no one person more important or less important than the other. We work towards making this a reality at FMN.

This coming week we have a training session with staff. It is based on what we have learned from working with Forget Me Notes. If you are going to ask others to do something, then you really should do it yourself. One of the things that I have learned is to be prepared to be surprised by the people who attend. The ability to communicate and share a story, a memory, a smile or the tapping of a song sheet to share their joy at being a part of something special.

Have a good week.

Monday 19th May 2025

It is a debate for some people as to whether it’s good to return to work when coming back from holiday. I had a good holiday, it is always good to spend time with Jean and have a time to relax. It is also great to get back to Forget Me Notes because it really doesn’t feel like work. It is a privilege and an opportunity. A perfect example was on Thursday afternoon when we were in the bandstand at Saughton Park. The weather in the park was beautiful and warm with a light wind, but as it always is, when you are stood in the bandstand, it was cold with a strong gale force wind and clothes pegs were needed to keep the music on the stand. 

We had seventy people who came to sing on Thursday, some with a lived experience of dementia, others with additional needs, there were younger people, older people and those in the middle. I went to speak to a group of people after the event and a lady who has dementia said to me “this has changed my life”. 

On Friday we had three sessions, one at Open Door which Alan and Paul delivered, this was attended by Ian Murray MP the Secretary of State for Scotland. It was an opportunity for someone with responsibility to understand what people gain from music. 

We also had sessions at Ashbrook and Cramond Residence where people were joining in with stories, singing and sharing in the value of community through music.

I have taken some time to reflect on the comments of the lady in the bandstand “this has changed my life”. What did she mean by that and what do others feel as they find support and fulfilment at Forget Me Notes? Feeling accepted and finding a place of belonging is important to all of us. Loneliness and isolation affect us both emotionally and physically, as does finding a community where we can express ourselves. While I haven’t been able to speak to the lady about her comment, I can listen along with other evaluations and understand something about the impact we make. We have another week ahead of us to offer our support to others and continue to build a community available for all.

I hope that you find a place of inclusion and acceptance in the week ahead.

Monday 5th May 2025

I am on holiday in Majorca and the weather is lovely. Jean and I flew out on Monday, so I won’t do a post next week. This last week again has been one that has offered so much. As I said last week it is a privilege to be able to work with those who attend All Singing and Dancing. We have spoken about how we might integrate those with additional needs, those with dementia and those who use the service for other reasons. On Monday we were delighted that one of those who attend All Singing and Dancing attended Zoom choir for the first time. Yesterday’s Zoom session was all about ABBA with songs of our new attendee’s choice. The beginning of our integration has commenced, and it is exciting to think where it might lead.

Friday saw us back at the Festival Theatre for the next round of Together in Song. The theme for the concert was Music to Move to. We did songs like Rock Around the Clock, Blue Suede Shoes, Jailhouse Rock and Tina Charles “I Love to Love”. It was great to see so many people dancing and singing along. As part of our digital project Kenny came along to film the session so we will have something to show you on our website, and you can share in the energy created during the afternoon.

Well, I will sign off and get back to the sun, let’s speak soon. 

Have a great week.

Monday 28th April 2025

This week was another highlight in the life of The Forget Me Notes Project. On Tuesday we saw the first All Singing and Dancing session under the management of The Forget Me Notes Project. Now this might not seem that big an event but to us it is a huge step into an environment that is different. All Singing and Dancing is open to all but primarily aimed at those with additional needs. It is an amazing service, and it is a privilege to now be a part of what it delivers for those who attend. I really must pay tribute to Kenny and Roddy who have delivered the group for so long. Maintaining the enthusiasm and commitment when working on your own is not easy. You only need to spend a short time in Kenny’s company to realise his passion for making music a part of the lives of people who need support. What does this mean for us all?

Well, it means for Forget Me Notes we enter a period of learning and development. We will work alongside Kenny to understand the impact that movement, sound and rhythm can make to people with additional needs. I hope for the ASAD group that we will be able to supply the support that is required ensuring that back up is there when holidays and illness affect the sessions delivery. To provide the support to Kenny and Roddy that shows they are a part of something that can assist in those moments when support is needed. There is a lot of cross over between the skills required to support those with dementia and those with additional needs so we can learn from each other. What is very evident is that this is a time of growth and understanding both for The Forget Me Notes Project and All Singing and Dancing. (Exciting days.)

On Friday we held our Trustees meeting, it is a monthly meeting where we look at direction and development. The wonderful thing about our Trustees is that they all have a passion for what we are achieving together. We rejoice in the knowledge that we all have opinions that can be respectfully shared and that they are not all the same. This puts us in such a strong position when exploring future development and the experiences of those we work with and who live with those challenges day by day. We have carers, former support workers, social care managerial staff on our board. They each bring a wealth of experience which has been and continues to be an amazing support to Paul and myself. I am often banging on about the fact that we don’t say thank you enough and that we don’t openly value what is all around. Let me for a moment take a drop of my own medicine and say thank you to our trustees. You are so precious to us, as are all who read our posts and support us in so many ways.

Have a great week.

Monday 21st April 2025

On Monday evening I was at the Festival Theatre as I am part of a group looking at how the programme for the King’s Theatre will develop for those with a lived experience of dementia. The King’s Theatre is going through a restoration and development period. It was interesting to be together with other like-minded people to explore what might be possible. It took me back to Covid times when we were able to deliver some online sessions from the stage of the King’s Theatre. We all had to be socially distanced, but it enabled those who were listening to be a part of something that helped sustain them through a difficult period.

Kenny and I were at Open Door on Tuesday. It is like a breath of fresh air working alongside the staff there. On the wall were the beginnings of the group scrap books for the Monday and Friday groups. The theme was people and relationships, and Gill had written up the comments that people had made during the sessions.  It was good to read and understand the energy that this had created. We have been developing plans for a third year of our project together so it is important that we get the funds for what we believe is an exciting project and what could become something that changes the way we deliver support to people.

On Thursday we were back at Saughton Park. The weather was changeable so I wasn’t sure who would turn up. We had 45 people on Thursday which was another great turn out and a lovely session singing amongst the plants in the greenhouse. This is our last session in the greenhouse as we will be in the bandstand on our next visit on the 1st May. We laughed at the idea that this would be when the rain and the winds would arrive. It is often windy in the Bandstand but surprisingly still in the park itself (weird).

We are in rejoicing mode at Forget Me Notes because we have secured the money that we need for our five Choirs for this financial year. Thanks to the Weir Trust we can now plan with growth in mind knowing that the core of what we provide is secure for another year. 

The situation we find ourselves in within the charitable sector means that finding funding like this is more difficult to access, so the positive thing is that we are cooking on gas for this coming year. I don’t suppose that’s a very green comment perhaps we should be cooking on hydrogen!

Have a great week.

Monday 14th April 2025

I was delivering the session at St Brides this week with John and Alan as Kenny was on holiday. We have a gentleman who lives with dementia and plays the fiddle (violin). It is something that he loves to do, in fact I would say his whole identity is wrapped up in his love of the violin. It is brilliant hearing him play along to all the songs we sing and he also really enjoys is when he gets the chance to play a solo or two. Although the numbers at St Bride’s haven’t been as high the impact that it’s made for some people who may find a bigger group a struggle is clear to see.

We also had two new places to visit this week - one was Milford House. We had great fun with the group thoroughly enjoying the music together. It was a real party atmosphere as the activity organiser had arranged food and drink for everyone. I am not sure whether the drink improved the singing, but it was great fun. We were also at LifeCare this week and although we had been there once before the group is very new to us and we are new to them. It is always interesting to begin building new relationships and see how different people respond and interact. Winning the confidence of people is important when trying to build a truly authentic support group and that is really what we are trying to do. It is right that this should take time as expecting people to share their life story on the first or second session is not realistic, so we will continue to work hard and see where it takes us.

On Saturday evening John and I went to St John’s Church, where the Edinburgh City Community Brass Band were delivering their spring concert. This year the choir performing with them was a community choir called the Corstorphine singers. They had kindly said that Forget Me Notes could do a collection at the end of their concert. Both the Band and the Choir did great and the evening was a great success.  I am beginning to understand the reach that Forget Me Notes has within the Edinburgh community. As people put their donations into the box, some people commented on what great work we are doing and how they had sung with Forget Me Notes in Saughton Park. It is not always easy understanding how people are receiving what we are doing, but it was clear by the amount people were giving that they appreciated our work.

I must admit to having a late-night last night as a golf fan I was watching Rory McIlroy win the Masters. His determination to win and his emotional response to winning was immense. His message to his daughter after winning was “never give up on your dreams”. I was again reminded of the great speech of Martin Luther King “I have a Dream”. Martin Luther King had given that speech several times before and its impact was nothing like the one occasion when it left a footprint upon the world. Like Rory, Martin Luther King had to keep trying to deliver until such times as the way opened for the impact to be felt. Whether or not Forget Me Notes ever make a footprint upon the world I really don’t know but that’s not our aim. We aim to leave a footprint on the lives of those people we support, and we will keep trying and showing just how much worth the people we work with have.

Hope you have a good week, speak to you next week.

Monday 7th April 2025

The beginning of the week felt as though summer had arrived early, I was feeling optimistic about Saughton Park and how the session would go this week. Then the east wind came along, and it was chilly. I need not have been concerned because being in the glasshouse meant that it was very hot and fifty people gathered to sing and share stories. 

At Ashbrook on Friday, we had twenty-six people which is the biggest ever turnout to a session. 

Groups often move in cycles and when one group has a high attendance another has less at different times. 

St Brides in recent weeks has been a little lower in attendance as one or two people are on holiday and a few people unwell. 

We have a group at Stenhouse which never has any more than five people and it is such a meaningful group. 

Our volunteer project and music therapy project each are aimed at delivering sessions with one person. 

I suppose what I am trying to say is it is the quality of our relationships that matter. When the relationships are authentic then the interactive experience and the numbers take care of themselves. It is people that matter and not numbers.

At a session yesterday someone said to me “thank you for involving us”. It could have been seen as a throw away remark at the end of a session. However, I took that comment and reflected on the session to see where we had enabled participation, and active listening had taken place. This means that next time I am aware of what worked and what didn’t. 

Empathy is all about using our own experiences to understand the world of other people. Understanding our own emotional responses to situations and using them to identify with the world that others experience. I have never been given a diagnosis or lived with dementia, but I have been given news that has changed my life, turned my world upside down. I remember how it made me feel and what my responses were. 

This all means that without each one of us the world cannot reach its full potential and without each person being valued for who they are there will always be more to learn.

As Louis Armstrong once sang “What a Wonderful World” and I can hear my friend Peter singing “Oh Yeah”.

Have a wonderful week.

Monday 31st March 2025

I don’t know if you are religious or not but there are many songs that have been written over the years about heaven. 

The following are just a few of them:  

Would you know my name if I saw you in Heaven. 

I’m in Heaven when I’m dancing cheek to cheek. 

Heaven Must be Missing an Angel.

I have always seen heaven as much about a relationship as it is a place in the future. Let me tell you about my experience of heaven this week. 

On the 22nd April the Forget Me Notes will take over the management of the All Singing and Dancing Tuesday group. All Singing and Dancing is a group that works with people with additional needs and offers the opportunity for people to come with their carers to express themselves to music. The group has been co-ordinated by Kenny Vass who is also a music facilitator at Forget Me Notes. Bringing the two groups together will be a wonderful opportunity for all of us. The new Scottish dementia strategy offers an increased way of working with those with additional needs, and particularly those with Down’s who are at greater risk of getting dementia. We are taking advantage of this, and it feels a privilege and an honour to support Kenny to provide what is an outstanding service. 

On Friday I dropped in on the Friday session of All Singing and Dancing. There must have been between 70 and 80 people all singing and dancing together. Some in wheelchairs, some with guitars, some young, some old, some Scottish, some of other nationalities. All accepted, all sharing, no competition, it was what could only be witnessed as a wonderfully loving environment.

It felt like heaven!

We can often get concerned about what really is trivia. Whether or not we have two cars, earn the most money, have the biggest house. Being a part of All Singing and Dancing makes you realise what are the most precious things in life. Valuing each other, supporting each other and sharing experiences together are surely what is most important. Along with telling someone you love them. It really doesn’t get any better.

If you want to share in a great week then living by these values must surely be like heaven itself.

Have a great week.

Monday 24th March 2025

We were doing a session at Open Door on Tuesday and the theme was food. It was great coming up with songs that include food. I know you may think of the song from Oliver ‘Food Glorious Food’. The musical Oliver one that has been performed in many schools and many of you like me may have memories of playing a part or singing in the chorus. I was lucky to play a part at my school. I was the long song seller, I literally had three words to sing which said, “who will buy”. Hardly a role that would win me an Oscar, though I did have to sing the three words twice. The good thing about having a theme about food is that we all have an opinion on food. It was a session with enthusiasm. 

On Thursday we had a great day with a session at a new care home for us called Royston Care Home. It seemed to go well and there was much enthusiasm from the residents.  We then went to Saughton Park in the afternoon and for the second session in a row we had fifty-two people singing and having great fun together.

On Friday we had an excellent Trustee meeting. We were finished in under an hour and yet we discussed some important items. While we are in a good place just now, if we could be a bit more successful on the grant front this would be helpful. Later at our session at Cramond I was happy to meet with a staff member who I knew from my time at Broomhouse. It was good to see her and catch up.

Reading this back it sounds like a quiet week; don’t you believe it!

Hope you have a great week, speak to you next time.

Monday 17th March 2025

Funding applications have become a part of my life and this week it’s been Awards for All and One City Trust. As much as they can be long and laborious, I do find them a positive challenge. What do I mean? Writing about Forget Me Notes allows me a time of reflection and a time when I can be specific about what we offer and what we achieve. We don’t always get a “yes” but if we get enough yeses to continue to provide a positive service that is all that counts.

On Tuesday I was doing supervision for a project we deliver at Open Door in Morningside. It is a wonderful project made that way by those that take part in it. We want to develop a three-year project and so we spent some time looking at what a third year might look like. This would mean that we would have three years of work that could be built into a package that could be delivered in any centre. We will also have an evaluation that goes with our work in order that we can evidence the value of the project.

The highlight of our week was singing at the Parliament. We had great fun and we were able to share our message of how music is good for your health. If delivered in imaginative and creative ways, then we can save the health service a lot of money. Kenny did a video of the occasion, and I have attached it to this post for you to view. Kenny has done a great job, and I am sure you will love it. It just so happens that Forget Me Notes is seven years old this month. What a way to celebrate.

Friday was spent at Strachan House and Craighall. We had a good-sized group at Strachan House but one or two people being unwell meant not as many as usual. This allowed us the opportunity to work closely with those who did come. We discovered one resident was a pianist and had played at the recent service that was held in the home. We heard other snippets relating to the lives of the residents and through music we were able to celebrate what makes them unique with a story all their own. In the afternoon we were at Craighall for another session. One of the residents who we have met there is not well. He was a long-distance runner who won a lot of different titles for running. He is also a lovely warm human being, and we had the privilege of singing with him. However ill he is when we sang “Wonderful World”, he joined in singing the words with a faint movement of his lips. These privileged moments are ones that I value so much.

What a week and now we start another with new opportunities, new stories and people to value. Have a great week.

Monday 10th March 2025

We have had another exciting week at Forget Me Notes. 

At the AGM we had good conversations about future and the steps forward that we have made with regard our constitution and how we are preparing for further development. 

This week was the first meeting of our All Singing and Dancing project team. All Singing and Dancing is a group aimed at those living with additional needs and is open to all. The project leader of this group is Kenny who is a music facilitator and is featured in this quarter’s newsletter. Kenny has been running the group for the past ten years. We have been in discussion with Kenny to bring the project under the umbrella of Forget Me Notes so this week we have been discussing the practicalities for doing that. The handover of the management to Forget Me Notes will take place in April. The wonderful thing is that from a practise point of view nothing will change, the project will be delivered in the same way as it is now. It does mean, however, that we can widen our scope and include in a more formal way those living with additional needs.

It was wonderful to be at Saughton Park this week with our regular members but also to welcome people with additional needs who were attending the group. We had 52 people in the Glasshouse. It was a real family atmosphere with everyone being included and all singing amongst the plants that were in this beautiful building.

We had a good session at Eagle Lodge this week. It is great when staff can join in with the singing, it is not always possible but this week we had a wonderful rendition of Edelweiss (with harmony) that included several staff members.

Friday saw us at The Festival Theatre for another session of Together in Song. It is always nice to have new people and there were at least four people who had never been before. We took the theme of Spring, and the weather certainly helped us out. We did Walking on Sunshine by Katrina and the Waves which was great. We also did an Ethel Merman song “Everything’s coming up Roses”.  It was great fun.

This coming week we will be singing in the Scottish Parliament for the MSP’s and invited guests. We will take our message of the benefits of music and see if we can influence the budget! That might be a bit of a tall order, but we will present the value of music to the health of the nation and hopefully show that through music we can cut spending on traditional medicines. We will give it a go for sure and see what we can achieve. 

I will let you know how it goes next week.

Monday 3rd March 2025

It was seven years ago in March when we took the decision to register The Forget Me Notes Project as a charity. We had one choir and some Music Memories sessions. We took the plunge believing that the journey ahead would offer us opportunities to support people through music. The journey that we have gone on has been one that we could never have predicted. I can say without fear of contradiction that we have experienced surprises along the way! Many people have recalled memories and shared stories with us that have been amazing. We have seen and heard communications that we would never have thought possible. Most of all we have a built a community that is strong, supporting each other through many challenging and difficult times.

Seven years later and we have evolved into an organisation that has five choirs, a volunteer project that completed 250 individual visits in the last year, a Music Memories project that has fully recovered after Covid and is now delivering more sessions. We also have a Music Therapy project working with those in the later stages of their illness.

It is true to say that as an organisation all that we do needs to be underpinned by a constitution and policies that are fit for purpose and which we can depend upon and work with.

Why is this the topic of this week’s post?

We held our AGM on Thursday with almost thirty people present, some voting and some community members. All those present had the interest of The Forget Me Notes Project at heart. I want to say a huge thank you to those trustees and staff who have with Paul’s help developed a constitution that will stand as our foundation for future evolution.

We will also spend time this year with an external group supporting us to look at our policies to ensure they are robust. This will mean that our practice will provide purpose and strength for both those who work with us and those who we support.

The Forget Me Notes Project is another year older and we are growing up from a new emerging service into a vital organisation for those with a lived experience of dementia and additional needs.

This project belongs to all those who have used it over the last seven years, those who use it now and those who will use it into the future. It is important that we reflect those who use our services and that at the heart of all that we do is the empowering of people.

This does feel like an important milestone in our journey. Your support is a vital part of who we are and who we will become.

Thank you for the part that you have played in our journey.

Monday 10th February 2025

The week began with our team meeting. It is always good to get together and understand what we are all doing and gain a sense of its impact. We are getting ready for our AGM and the next production of our Newsletter.

This past week our music memories sessions included St Bride’s, St Cuthbert’s, Morningside, Eagle Lodge, Marian House, Ashbrook and a new setting for us: Life Care. It is always interesting to see how a session in a new setting goes, beginning to establish new relationships both with those who use the service and staff members. We took a mixture of Scottish songs and songs for Valentine’s Day. It was interesting to see just how quickly people felt able to share their story with us. It was also interesting to see how those with dementia were able to access communication at the level of other participants.

Following our training last week, I produced a paper on the types of dementia and the impact dementia may have. It is always an interesting paper to write because dementia is so individual, and context plays a huge part in the way people respond. The good thing about building relationships with people whether they have dementia or not is that the cornerstone must be respect. When we come to realise that we are all complex, diverse people, then we understand the reason to make room for others who are diverse and complex too.

Saughton Park on Thursday was a great session with a wonderful energy about it. Singing in a greenhouse does have a certain ring to it and being caught up in nature is also something that can be so inspiring.

Talking of having a ring to it. We were at the Festival Theatre on Friday doing some songs for Valentine’s and some from Mary Poppins. The show in the main theatre now is Mary Poppins and some of the cast popped in (I stole that line from Paul who told it on Friday). The singing from the cast was wonderful so uniting together to sing the Mary Poppins songs was just the best. The sound when we sang “Let’s go fly a kite” was unbelievable and the accents when singing Supercalafragalistic (if that’s how you spell it) were so much better than Dick van Dyke. Talking of Dick van Dyke have you seen the video of him and Chris Martin from Coldplay? It is wonderful. I am sure you would find it on You Tube. Dick van Dyke is 99 years old and has dementia. The care with which Chris Martin allows the interview to unfold is just brilliant. The music being a catalyst for a great exchange between the two of them.

Another exciting week to share with you. Hope you have a great week, and I will let you know how we get on next time.

Monday 3rd February 2025

I don’t know about you, but it seems amazing that it is February already.

What an amazing evening on Friday at the Ceilidh. There were so many moments that were highlights during the evening. Over ninety people turned up to share the evening and if you wanted to share an evening of respect then you couldn’t have chosen a better place to be. The participants were symbolic of the song Union of Different Kinds that we sang midway through the evening. What do I mean by that? Well there were people with additional needs, those with dementia, young children of six and others who were ninety-six. All singing, dancing and enjoying their supper together. It was truly a celebration full of respect and love.

I have a lasting image of the dancing when there was a group dance which included the dancing splitting into two lines with a gap down the middle. One couple danced through the middle moving to the top and then back to the bottom end of the line. The beauty of the moment was that the couple dancing through the middle of the lines was a person being pushed in a wheelchair. It was as though they were the star of the show. Pure dead brilliant!

Earlier in the week at a training afternoon we considered how we ensured we gave people power within our sessions. Well, there was the living demonstration of how to do it.

There were so many people we needed to say thank you to that included: Jean and the team in the kitchen who served an amazing Haggis supper. To Kenny and the band for the way in which they provided such an inclusive evening of dancing, to Paul and John who organised the raffle so well. We haven’t got a figure for how much we raised but it will be somewhere around £500.

What we cannot measure the effect upon all our well-being, otherwise called the feel-good factor. One thing for sure is that the energy in the room was wonderful with everyone supporting everyone else to have a great time.

There is so much said about equality and diversity and how a person is worthy of their place. Well, the Forget Me Notes Ceilidh was an example of how to do both, and speaking for myself: bring on the next time.

Have a great week.

Monday 27th January 2025

If you were watching Michael McIntyre on Saturday, you would have seen Peter. Peter is an 81-year-old gentleman whose wife has dementia (she has subsequently died). Peter has gone to see her every day and while there has sung to her and the other people on the ward. Peter said he hoped to give them a lift with his singing. Peter was the unexpected star of the show, and he sang at the end of the programme the song “Smile”. It would not be a surprise to know that Jean had a tear in her eye and so did I. It was a beautiful moment and a tribute to both Peter and his wife.

If you are reading this, you must have survived the weather on Friday. It was scary at times, and I hope that your house and gardens survived too. Paul and I have managed to get two funding applications submitted this week and because I was in all day on Friday, I have been able to write an application to Awards for All which is the National Lottery fund in Scotland.

We had some great Music Memories sessions this week as well as a visit to All singing and dancing, a group for those with additional needs. To call it inspiring is an understatement. I also managed to secure more work going forward with a Day Centre in Leith which is wonderful.

No one would believe that January is supposed to be a quite month!

In the words of my mate John “dementia doesn’t take time

off”. With that in mind then we seek to offer different types of support at different times to different people. We found a song this week sung by the Fisherman friends’ choir; it is called “The Union of Different Kinds”. It is a great song and suits us at Forget Me Notes so well, we celebrate the fact that we are all different and that when we respect each other’s differences, enabling each person to reach the best version of themselves as possible, then we build the best Forget Me Notes that is possible to achieve.

If you have been on Eventbrite to get Ceilidh tickets for Friday and found that there isn’t any left don’t worry - by tomorrow there will be another twenty tickets available.

Hope to see some of you on Friday evening. Have a great week.

Monday 20th January 2025

The preparations for the Ceilidh are going well with several different raffle prizes. We have a Guitar, M&S Vouchers, Meal and Ceilidh vouchers for Ceilidh connections and lots of other prizes. The tickets are going well so if you haven’t got a ticket, you should try and get one this week or you might be disappointed. Kenny’s band are well known for their brilliant Ceilidh evenings so I know it will be a great evening.

We are also getting ready for our AGM next month which means the invitations are going out to both voting and community members. If this is something you would like to be a part of then just let us know.

We completed our sessions at Blenham House with a marvellous Scottish afternoon. We have delivered three sessions paid for by a family who wanted to do something for the residents of the care home where their parents lived until they died. What an amazing gift and so thoughtful. We hope we did their memory proud with Bonnie wee Jeanie McColl and The Jeelly Piece song going down well. We also sang “A man’s a man for a that”. A wonderful piece of writing by Rabbie Burns. The final verse of that song is all about hope for the future and as we have watched those appalling scenes in the Middle East lets hope there are better days ahead.

This week saw us back at Saughton Park and the first filming taking place of the digital project. We hope that in future Facebook posts we will be able to give you some visual examples of some of the things we do which will show the impact of our work in a more complete way. We were also back at Ashbrook this week. It is so good to see increased numbers and people engaging so freely with the session. Cramond Residence on Friday saw an equally amazing session with staff getting into the rock and roll songs with dance moves like I have never seen before.

At our Trustee meeting John spoke about an idea for a project. John and Kenny had delivered some live music in someone’s home as part of a celebration. The idea is that we could offer this on a wider scale. It is sometimes difficult to support vulnerable people being involved in large party groups, but small in-house celebrations or external family bespoke celebrations are easier and worth consideration. We decided at the meeting that this was something that we can do and once we have sorted a budget then we will put the details on our website. If you are looking for a family celebration inclusive of someone who is vulnerable and might find bigger settings more difficult. Then why not give this some consideration.

Life never stands still at Forget Me Notes - we are always looking for innovative ways to promote inclusion and build community.

As the Beatles once sang “All you need is Love”.

Have a great week.

Monday 13th January 2025

The first working week of a new year and we have had a positive start. We have had two new care homes enquire about us working with them. One has already confirmed, and we will start work on the 28th of January. We will need to wait and see what might be possible at the other care home. We delivered sessions at Morningside, Eagle Lodge, Strachan House and Craighall. When we arrived at Craighall we discovered that one of the residents who attends the group was not so well. We decided that we would go and sing to him in his room. It was great to see such a positive reaction to the music as he tapped his feet. Kenny and I got a lift seeing him do this.

On Thursday Libby, Elizabeth and I had a meeting at RS Macdonald, this was to look at our monitoring and evaluation to see if we could find a way of storing and accessing the information more easily. This will be of great help to me when doing funding applications, as all the information is in one place.

We are due to submit a report to RS Macdonald with regard our volunteer project. Elizabeth has completed the report, and it was a joy to read and understand all that has been achieved over the last year. We have been able to complete more than 250 visits to people’s homes to deliver music sessions to those people who have difficulty in attending community activities. Behind this number lies relationships that are both precious and important to those receiving them and their families. One Gentleman who plays the violin enjoys duets with his volunteer. His family have decided that the impact of being a part of a group means that they now pay for private support in order that he can come to St Brides each week. What is so good when the Gentleman plays at St Brides, is that he plays alongside one of our facilitators Roddy who also plays violin. There are times in order that his playing is affirmed that Roddy will follow him and play a piece in time with the gentleman. When I watch him play, I see the impact it has and the joy that he feels is written all over his face. After reading Elizabeth’s report I must admit that a tear filled my eye when I realised the impact that this part of the project is making. I could never have thought that we would be so affective and deliver something so precious.

We now have tickets available for the Ceilidh and we have been looking for raffle prizes. We already have a Guitar, Vouchers for Marks & Spencer’s and various other prizes. I am sure it is going to be a great evening. Tickets are £12 and if you would like to come and join us then just let me know.

Hope you have a great week.

Monday 6th January 2025

When it comes to TV over Christmas, I should have mentioned Gavin and Stacey. If you have recorded it and haven’t seen it yet, then please watch it.  You can also watch the amazing documentary that goes with it and this certainly helped me to understand the story and humour in greater depth. Anyway, I don’t just want to discuss Gavin and Stacey, but in the words of Ness “What’s occurring”?

The opening few days of this year has been all about funding applications. I am hoping I have found a couple of crackers. They appear to fit our remit beautifully so here is hoping. One of the trusts encourages a phone call before application which is what I like. The opportunity of an in-person call can often help the process along well. I intend getting in touch this morning and see where the call goes.

I also have a call this morning with a new Care Home that has intimated that they would be interested in working with us in the New Year and another that has possibilities too.

On the 31st of January at St Brides in Dalry we are holding a fundraising Ceilidh. Kenny’s band will be supporting the evening, and I am sure we will have fun together. We start the evening at 6:30 with 45 minutes of singing together (typical Forget Me Notes) a short break and then into the Ceilidh dancing. That will run from 7:30 until 8:15 with a half hour break for a Haggis supper. At 8:45 we will recommence the dancing finishing the evening between 9:30 and 9:45. All for the princely sum of £12. If you would like tickets, then if you contact me I am sure we can get them to you.

I realise that today may well be the first day back at work for many of you who are reading this post, so hope it goes well.

Happy New Year.